Life After Divorce - Living As A Single Mom

 

Unveil the Mask:

 2004, one week before Christmas, it’s snowing, I and a moving truck are on our way to my new beginning, my new home in West Chester, Ohio. 3 bedroom, walk in closet, 2 ½ bath, finished basement, 2 car garage, mmm this is better than what I had, mmm God, you showed out, huh??

 Unbelievable, I Nicole am free, on my own with 3 children, 2boys, 1 girl.....Reality check, alone with 3 kid’s? Oh My!  Thru it all....I made it, God, my family, and me.

 I was married for 8 years. Definition of my marriage: Unequally yoked, wrong reasons to marry, too high expectations, issues on top of issues, unhappy with self, insecurities, loneliness, disappointments, emptiness, voids......  looking for one another to fill the void, you can’t, because you’re empty, looking to the wrong one to fulfill, fix, complete all of these things! 

 Now I’m angry at myself, how in the hell did I get in this situation?    Thru it all, God blessed me with three wonderful children, Darius, Dejah, and Devin.  Children are enough to hold this marriage...it will get better, right?

 House, cars, good job, business, kid’s, perfect American Family, it will get better.....

 Well, ok, let’s compromise....get in position women!  I sold my Salon to go home and raise my children, become a homemaker.  Sacrifice!  Still hustle on the side, doing hair to make ends meat.  Big transition!   Now I’m really, really mad because I’m broke, begging mom and dad...now this don’t feel good either, as a matter of fact, I feel worse.

 Within those 5 yrs, my household, my marriage became more dysfunctional , why?

 Unequally yoked!  If your marriage is not grounded on God the father and his rules on marriage in his sight......Unconditional love and respect for one another....It  will not work!

 And because of all of this..... I began to die Spiritually!  It was time to run for my life and live again for the betterment of my children and myself!

 Life as a single mom is hard, but I’ve allowed God to take total control of my life, and he directs me in everything I do.   I am no longer in total control of my life.  My life is not my own....this is a beautiful thing!  Because of my obedience to God, he has blessed me over and abundantly, I have true favor over my life.

  During my divorce, I prayed a lot, and spent time alone.  Me and God.  I asked God to cover my children.  I prayed that God would remove any generational curses that may be in the blood line of both sides of the family. Curses of alcoholism, drug additions, promiscuity, homosexuality, fear, anger, obesity, abandonment and insecurities!  And so it is done!

  During this transition, I realized that I need help, I can’t do this by myself.  Asking God to direct me in this transition, God showed up and sent help!  My children visited a child psychologist, to make sure they understood divorce and why mom and dad were not together anymore.  It’s a process, but it was all worth it.  This was all led by God, I would have never thought to do any of these things.  You must be very open with your children during divorce, hold no secrets.  

 Also, it is very important to try to develop a cordial relationship with your ex, if the situation is safe.  It is very important if you have children.  I prayed that God would send positive role models in each of my children’s lives, it take s a village to raise children.

This may seem a lot, but well worth it.  God is God, I couldn’t do any of these things mentioned, if God wasn’t leading it all, God is in total control.  Having a wonderful support system is always helpful.  God has blessed me with a loving family who have been very supportive at my home, with my children, and my business.  I thank them and I love them!  Thank you God for blessing me with my family.

 Being a single mom, is hard at times, but life is hard, but prayer changes things.  Having a true relationship with God, thru all your trials, God carries you thru them!  You’re not alone!  Having God as the head of your life, developing relationship with God, having conversations with God, surrounding yourself with positive people, delete all negatives in your life..........makes life a little smoother. 

 Life becomes more pleasant, some trials will come, but when you give it all to God, the good and bad....life is alright! I love my life now, I’m happy, I have peace of mind, I’m clear on who I am and what God has purpose me to be.                                                                                                              

 Salon Favor," specializing in healthy hair care”, becoming president of BOBSA (black owned beauty supply assoc) Ohio Chapter, where we’re regaining economic disparity among the black hair care industry.......all of this has come by allowing God to take control of my life totally!  God is an awesome God!  There is so much more God has in store for me!

 If there is one advice that I could give to divorcees, it would be this....ask God to soften your heart so that you may be able to forgive your ex.  Forgiveness is a huge part of the healing process, forgiveness helps you!  Forgiveness allows you to move on with your life pain free.  Begin a new chapter in life on a positive.

 I pray all find peace, love, joy and happiness in ....Life After Divorce.

 

 Peace and Blessings.

Nicole Gallagher

 If you’d like to contact Nicole, she can be reached at Salon Favor 513-779-2147 or email gfavor@fuse.net

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                                      DAILY AFFIRMATION FOR UNLIMITED PROSPERITY

 

In spite of the perceived difficulties of the moment, I will not despair because all of my affairs are in divine order.

 I rebuke fear and worry.  I rebuke anger and resentment and all forms of financial frustration.  I am never broke or without adequate income.

 My life is getting better day by day.  I feel loved, needed, appreciated and respected.  People love and adore me and are attracted to me and my Business.

 I am worthy of success.  I am worthy of prosperity.  I am worthy of riches.  I attract power, prosperity and plenty.  No harm, hurt or danger can come near me because I am divinely protected from all evil.

 My business customers are rushing to find me.  They are looking for me am I am looking for them.  Nothing and no one can deny nor delay my good because my good will always finds me.  I am blessed with unlimited power, unlimited opportunity, unlimited prosperity and unlimited patience, perseverance and vision.  My mentality is clear.  I feel no stress, no strain, no shame and there is no need whatsoever for me to struggle or worry about anything including my future, my present or my past.

 I willingly let go of anything or anyone that could hold me back.

 Unlimited success...monumental success is rushing to find me right now.  So there is no need to neither panic....nor entertain doubt or uncertainty.  My steps are re pre-ordained, ordered by a power greater than my human self, so whom shall I fear!

 My work is divinely protected also.  So no matter the difficulty, business is progressing, moving forward with unlimited joy, unlimited peace, unlimited power and prosperity.  I have all the power and know-how to be successful.

 Therefore, success is mine...I claim it right now...all in the name of the great Almighty God.  I am power.  I am success.  I am prosperity.  I am opportunity.  I am both healthy, wealthy and wise, and I am also all about love.  I cannot be stopped because I am now unstoppable!

 I am Alpha and Omega.

 And so it is!

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Transition From Religious 2 Spiritual

 

In the name and thru the power of our Lord and Savior

Jesus Christ, Holy Spirit take control of my

circumstances, my conversations, and my situations,

through faith as I surrender my will 2 u 4 this entire day.

All praises r given 2

the Father God of

Heaven above 4 He is

worthy 2 b praised,

and in full faith I

consciously accept this

manifest!

Religious: Born and

raised n the Baptist

Church, sang n the

gospel choir, 1st

introduction 2 God,

Jesus, and

Fear! Feared God, Feared life, Feared Hell, Feared sin,

Fear death! Teachings: “When we get 2 Heaven, what a

day it will b!” In Church as a young gal I always felt that

there was something else besides what I was being told

and what was being seen...it seemed 2 b contradicting.

Experiences as I was growing up, But not taught: outer

body experiences, invisible friends, called “old soul”, felt

invincible, high sexual energy, people easily gravitate 2

me, successful at anything I put my mind 2, self educated,

understood “the game” early n life....

Then the anxiety attacks began....FEAR had caught up

with me...this WAS taught! After my 1st child, my life

changed 4evr! FEAR and DOUBT stood up against

me...Am I a good mother, do I luv the baby’s daddy, do I

luv myself, do I know what luv is, do I want this life?

Religion spoke: Get married you sinner, having a child out

of wedlock, oh no, I don’t wanna go 2 hell! 2 kid’s later

my spirit began 2 die.....alcohol, drugs, lies, adultery,

divorce....Now I’m really going 2 hell!

On the edge of my bed, high on marijuana (yes I use 2

smoke the cronik) , I cried out 2 God...”If u get me out of

this Unhappy situation, I promise I will DO whatever you

have purposed me 2 b, purposed me 2 do!” And slowly

yet peacefully, but painfully, yet peacefully, .....I made a

conscious decision 2 bgan 2 live life happy with a peace

of mind! Spirituality began 2 find me.

Began relationship with God, understanding his voice, being led by

the Holy Spirit n EVERYTHING I do! I no longer controlled my

life, God directed my path....I have become his Obedient child!

Spirituality: Discovered spirituality n depth, it began 2 find me,

and scared the HELL out of me! (no pun intended). Experienced

anxiety attacks more often, discovered I am an Empath: one who is

highly sensitive to another one’s emotions and feelings. One who

sense the truth behind the cover and will act compassionately to

help that person express self, thus making them feel at ease and not

so desperately alone. Discovered I am an Indigo adult: one who

undergoes a spiritual and physical transformation that awakens

their “Christ” consciousness as part of the evolutional wave

change. Indios are often mislabeled with psychiatric diagnoses of

ADHD or ADD. Sadly when medicated, the Indigo often lose their

beautiful sensitivity, spiritual gifts and warrior energy. Continued

discovery: negative energy began 2 affect me

physically....understood how to cover my self from the spirits

around me. Understood how to properly cleanse my surroundings

and free the atmosphere of the spirits. Understood there are many

different realms and I could no longer operate the realm I was

operating on with my religious belief teachings, only. I needed

things that were tangible: sage, frankincense and myrrh, hematite

rings, dream catchers, burden baskets, hyssop teas, crystals and the

Star of David....

What a discovery! Wish there was sum kind of preparation 4 this

transition, it was quite a roller coaster, most people would not have

survived this!

So how can this transition b more knowledgeable, have more simple

understanding, less fearing, a bit smoother, more inviting, more

acceptable 2 those being affected by the shift?

This is how:

“BEGIN 2 ERASE FEAR FROM THE MIND”

False

Evidence

Appearing

Real

By, Nicole Gallagher

Contact info:

513-779-2147

Email: gfavor@fuse.net

Nicole Gallagher

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Salon Favor Owner Nicole Gallagher is Living Her Destiny

Having her own salon has always been a big dream for Salon Favor owner, Nicole "Nikki" Gallagher. A year ago in June, she opened up the salon in West Chester at 9274 Centre Point Drive,  Suite #18. Prior to opening Salon Favor, Gallagher worked and gained experience at Hair Advantage in West Chester. She also opened up her first salon eight years ago that was later sold. Gallagher is a single mother of three who is also a proud business owner.

She has two boys and a girl, and when she’s not working, she enjoys spending time with her children. She and her family reside in West Chester. While she maintains a busy lifestyle, Gallagher said, "It’s all worth it, because my children are watching me I want them to have the same goals and aspirations on their own. I want them to know that if their mom can do it, they can do it."

She said the name of the salon relates to God’s favor on her life. "The favor of God is where the name comes from." Salon Favor specializes in hair replacements including hair weaving, fusion, and invisible hairline units.

Gallagher said her services are especially beneficial for those who might be experiencing hair loss from alopecia or for those going through chemotherapy.

One aspect she enjoys the most is the relationships with each of her clients and the opportunity to be a part of their lives. "They are trusting us with their hair, and so they tend to be relaxed, and comfortable with me, and that gives me the chance to be positive and share testimonies on how you can make it in life."

In addition to her work at the salon, Gallagher also serves as the president of the local chapter of BOBSA (Black-owned Beauty Supply Association, www.bobsa.org). BOBSA’s mission is to connect the black dots! Connect black manufacturers, to black distributors, to black retailers, to black consumers in black communities: by destroying the veil of economic disparity and black economic oppression within the black hair care and beauty industry. The hair care industry is an 8 billion dollar industry, African Americans are 90% the consumers! It’s time that we as African Americans use the resources around us and begin to make our communities, our children, our culture the best that it should be, by...Connecting the Black Dots! BOBSA Ohio Chapter headquarter offices are within Salon Favor. Nicole is very excited about the organization and the opportunity it presents to the African American culture!

Gallagher also extends a special "Thank You" to X-quisite Cuts in West Chester for their support and to Hair Advantage for giving her an opportunity. For more information or to schedule an appointment with Nicole Gallagher, call (513) 779-2147. She invites you to stop in and see all of the available products and services.

Personal buzz on Nicole Gallagher :

Owner, mother of three

Book you’re currently reading: Eat Right for Your Type by Peter D’adamo

CD in you car: The Real Thing: Words and Sounds by Jill Scott

Favorite Inspirational Quote or Motto: I am wonderfully well blessed and highly favored.

Favorite vacation spot: Sedona, Arizona

Pet Peeve: Negativity. Negative people.

Hobbies: I’m designing a clothing, shoes and jewelry line.

A dream or goal you still want to achieve: To retire at age 40, and to spend more time with my children.

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National Urban League Success Story:

Nicole Gallagher- West Chester, Ohio

Published on National Urban League (http://www.nul.org)

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